Thursday, November 15, 2012

REACHING OUT TO PARENTS


As part of my job as Leadership Contract Worker, I do a Collegiate Ministry Blog (www.arlissdickerson.blogspot.com) and recently I was stunned to see what the most read blog was and still is.  “10 Things the Parent of a College Freshmen Should Know” is by almost double the most read of all my blogs.  This would be likely caused by the State BCM Office in Louisiana referencing it in a letter they sent to the parents of incoming Baptist freshmen.  But, what I think it means is that parents are hungry for and looking for help in being a part of the spiritual directions of their sons and daughters.  We need to partner with parents for their benefit and ours.  Parents can be outspoken in their church and state conventions for the support of college ministry.  How can we connect with and help parents?  A couple of years ago, I experimented with doing, “Being the Parent of a College Freshman” seminars in some of my area churches.  I simply wrote the pastor a letter and I said I would be glad to do such a seminar usually in July or August, but at their scheduling and no cost to them.  Here are some topics you might cover at such a 60 to 90 minute seminar:
-Myths About College (everyone knows what they want to be, etc)
-Common Mistakes Freshmen Make
-Pros and Cons of Joining a Greek Organization (Fraternities/Sororities)
-What does a ministry like the Baptist Collegiate Ministry Offer
-How parents can encourage and help their student who is away at school.

You could even take an upperclassman or two to do a testimony or form a panel, etc.  I believe we can and should do more in connecting with parents for a variety of reasons.  I believe that one of the reasons that college ministry funding is often one of the first cut is because it can be cut with the fewest complaints....parents can change that, if they are aware!  Just contact me, if you need more ideas about doing such a workshop. 

By the way, the other two most read blogs were #2 “7 Top Reasons Students Attended a Ministry for the First Time”, and #3 “20 Principles and Wise Sayings of Collegiate Ministry.”

Arliss Dickerson
Leadership Contract Worker
www.arlissdickerson@gmail.com

Monday, August 13, 2012

You Are the Face of Your Ministry

Whether you like it or not, you are the face of your ministry. People identify with people. All great movements have had a face.

Questions to consider:

1. Will parents say, "I want my son or daughter to be like you?". That's what they are saying when they send students to you. Or at least, they believe you will be a plus in their son or daughter's life.

2. Will financial supporters want to give to to your ministry when they see who you are?

3. Will school officials work with you and trust you when they see who you are?

One college minister tells of receiving significant financial gifts any time his picture appeared in the paper. Over time he has become the face of the ministry. What are you doing or what should you be doing to be a better face to your ministry. One of the truths of college ministry is one of the groups of students you attract is people just like you. Scary huh?

Arliss Dickerson,
Lifeway Leadership Contract Worker
Arliss has a great blog full of helpful insights to collegiate ministrty: www.arlissdickerson.blogspot.com

Monday, April 30, 2012

Reaching Young Men in Ministry, in Leadership, in Life.


Ministries across the nation are asking the same question: where have all the men gone?  As a campus minister, I am trying to understand why men are less likely to attend, serve, and lead in our ministries.  The following is a compilation of personal experiences, theories, and results from a national survey of BCM/Church based collegiate ministries (survey gathered with the assistance of Dr. Brian Combs, campus minister at Northern Kentucky University) for the purpose of getting the conversation started on how ministries are to engage men.

Daniel Berry,
BCM Director, University of Kentucky

Friday, April 27, 2012

10 Things You Should Do This Summer!


1.  Contact the 10 largest churches or youth ministries in your area to get a list of their students who will be coming to your campus.  Find out which ones they might recommend as potential leaders.

2.  Send an invitation to those incoming freshmen recommended to you as potential leaders inviting them to be part of a weekly Freshmen Leadership Team meeting and Bible study led by you.  If the church could not tell you who was a potential leader, invite all the freshmen whose names you were given by the area churches/youth ministries.

3.  If you have a facility or you are a church minister with a meeting space, look at it honestly and seee what needs to be updated, painted, or refurbished.  Ask someone outside your ministry with good taste to make recommendations.  Do at least one thing that gives it a new look or freshness for the fall.  Look at how the new coffee house type places use colors on different walls, etc.

4. Send a one page newsletter with a great picture or two to every individual and church that supported your ministry this year telling them 2 or 3 good things that happenened.  Don't ask for money---just thank them.  Don't forget churches that supplied lunches.

5.  If you speak weekly during the fall, begin a folder with ideas for topics, outlines, clippings, etc.  Then, in July begin laying out your topics and outlines for the fall semester.

6.  Go visit another campus with a strong ministry and take the campus minister to lunch and learn how and why they do what they do.

7.  While you are on that campus, walk through every religious center on campus.  Bulletin boards and signs tell you a lot.

8.  Send out an evaluation sheet to 10 of your students asking them what they see as the strengths and weaknesses of the ministry.  Send a stamped return envelope that they can return anonomously.  Make sure they understand you want it to be anonomous!

9.  If you serve in an on campus minsitry and your campus does Summer Orientations, find out if it is possible for you to have a booth, hand out water as they go by, or have a sign up they will see.  If you serve in a church based ministry, check with the on-campus ministry to see how you can partner with them in such a project.

10. Make sure that you do some golf, fishing, and family time that got shorted during the regular school year.

2 Final Words:
It is not too late to sign up to attend the National Collegiate Ministries Summit in Nashville May 2-4 (only once every 3 years).  What's better than hanging out with 400 to 500 college ministers......besides free food!

Shameless Plug:  Check out my college ministry blog: www.arlissdickerson.blogspot.com for regular postings of college ministry articles.

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Need Your Help with a Survey!

Please take 10 minutes to do the following survey. It is supposed to be difficult to answer by design. Both men & women need to be surveyed. National Project Concerning Reaching Men:
https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/bcmmensurvey

Daniel Berry

Thursday, January 26, 2012

Leadership: Mentoring, Info for Your Growth and Prayer Reminder

There are lots of excellent and lengthy explanations about how and why mentor others. Spring semester is always a time to build deeper into some students' lives and to prepare some for a future leadership role. So, here are "Arliss' Over-simple Rules for Mentoring".
1. Seek out students with potential.
2. Set a regular time to meet....with some degree of privacy.
3. Talk personal issues...what's going on with them...big issues....little issues...just them stuff.
4. Talk leadership...why do people follow some people...whose the best leader you know/worst.....why?
5. Talk faith questions...what do you wonder about....where are you....what troubles you?
6. Affirm them ability wise and personally. Everybody needs to know they got something to offer.
7. Be honest with them...sometimes fun and pleasant...sometimes hard! But, you aren't mentoring, if you aren't honest!
8. Help them evaluate and learn from past and present leadership situations.
UPCOMING NATIONAL COLLEGIATE MINISTRIES SUMMIT, May 2-4, Nashville
-The deadline for early/cheaper registration is January 31.
-SPOUSE RATE: $35 This pays for their conference fee as well as the Wednesday night dinner and Thursday lunch. There will be an Affinity group for spouses and there will be some Mega Seminars and Idea Labs that would relate to family.
PRAY---Many of our collegiate ministry family lost their salary funding as of December 31 and are in the process of raising salaries to stay where God has planted them while some are moving to different campuses.
REMEMBER, I do a Collegiate Ministry blog at arlissdickerson.blogspot.com.

Arliss Dickerson, Leadership Contract Worker

What Does Real Ministry Cost?


We live in an age of increased financial austerity in ministry, especially in the world of collegiate ministry. Staff positions are being eliminated, budgets are being cut, priorities are being shifted, and everyone is having to learn to do more, or at least the same, with less. Finding alternate streams of support are becoming more and more vital to our continued existence, not just in ER areas but across the Bible Belt. It’s a time of intense hand wringing and increased frustration.

To some extent it seems those of us in the collegiate ministry world have been dealing with some form of this for the past twenty years or so. I recall a gathering of campus ministers I was part of a while ago. We were being told that finances were tight and we may have to do without some of the things in our ministries we had come to take for granted. I vividly remember one campus minister strongly protesting these changes, declaring, “Well, if I can’t do my campus ministry the way I’ve been doing it all these years, I’ll just won’t do it any longer!”

That struck me as a very sad way to look at things, and for me called into question his effectiveness as a leader. The things that would have to be given up were certainly valuable, but his ministry did not stand or fall on those being present. Wise leaders know that when one path is blocked, you need to consider the alternatives, or reassess the usefulness of what you already have.

Several years ago we were working on our core values for our collegiate ministry here in Penn/South Jersey. It seemed we were always having to make bricks without straw, so one that we settled on was “Creative Resourcing”: While we will be bold and creative in seeking financial resources for our work, we need to give focus to things that don’t cost money.

What are some of the things we can focus on that don’t cost money?

Outstanding Communication
I may not be able to afford to have the slickest website on the internet, but it really doesn’t cost anything extra to make sure I keep in contact with those I need to, that I respond to phone calls and e-mails in a timely manner, and that important information is communicated with my team members so they can deal with it in the best way possible. In a day of unlimited phone calls, texts, and Facebook, there’s no excuse here. This one is a no-brainer.

Excellent Planning
Good planning is closely related to good communication. We all have pressures on our time, but that means that more than ever we need to be students of good time management and effective planning. I need to do all I can to move from Covey’s Quadrant One (urgent and important) to Quadrant Two (non-urgent and important) so that I’m on top of my work and not always behind the curve. Information on how to do this is readily available via websites, books, and mentors. It mostly involves making changes on my part that really have nothing at all to do with my budget.

Passionate, Fervent Prayer
It may take money to put on a prayer conference or a prayer breakfast, but real prayer doesn’t cost a dime. In fact, it may be the best “investment” you and I will ever make. Two hundred years ago a group of students in New England, seeking shelter under a haystack during a rainstorm, started praying and unleashed one of the greatest spiritual awakenings in our nation’s history. I doubt an expense reimbursement for hay resources was ever submitted.

Priority on the Word of God
LifeWay may not like me saying this, but if resource funds are tight, you can always study the Bible. You probably have a few of those laying around, right? ;-) (And if funds are available, you really should check out the great resources at threadsmedia.com!)

Persistence in Sharing Christ
We may end up with less money for evangelistic events and resources, but at the end of the day, evangelism comes down to one person sharing Christ with another. Other than maybe a few dollars for a cup of coffee or two, this doesn’t have to cost anything except the time and effort you put into it. Seriously, don’t ever think your evangelism efforts have to suffer because of budget cuts. Just go talk with people. And teach your students to do the same.

Quality Relationships
This is really what ministry is all about. The most effective, respected, and beloved collegiate ministers put the focus of their attention here. People are always the focus of what we do, always. People always need and appreciate encouragement, and you can give out boatloads of encouragement without breaking the bank. Some of us are prodigious huggers, while others excel in written affirmation. In a digital age where we are in constant contact through Facebook, personal expressions of thanks are still in fashion. And I would argue that in our time, with the decline of mail service, a handwritten note carries even more impact than ever. But along with hugs and notes, the greatest gift we can give others remains our gift of face to face time and a listening ear. And no meter has to be running during those conversations.

Look at the above list. If you were to ask a hundred collegiate leaders what constitutes the core of their ministries, it would almost certainly include some forms of good communication, good planning, prayer, focusing on the Word, sharing Christ, and quality relationships. Money helps us do all these things, but at the end of the day, with each of these it’s the intangibles, the personal aspects, rather than the tangible parts that cost money, that really makes the difference.

There’s nothing I’ve shared here that you didn’t already know, but it’s good to be reminded of such things. It’s in times of challenge where real leaders show their stripes. Martin Luther King, Jr. once said, "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

In Judges 7 we read of the Lord drawing down the numbers of warriors who would follow Gideon into battle against the Midianites. Gideon started out with thirty-two thousand, then ten thousand, and finally three hundred men. God made it clear that he wanted a small number so “…that Israel may not boast against me that her own strength has saved her” (v. 2). It was God himself who provided the power and the victory, not the power and strength of the masses.

The point is self-evident. A leader in ministry knows where his/her real strength comes from. Our budgets and support may be challenged, but ultimately our real strength, what gets us up every morning and gets us through our day, comes from a vital relationship with Jesus.

And last time I checked, I didn’t need to swipe a credit card to enter my prayer closet.


Robert Turner
Emerging Regions National Consultant
Director of Collegiate Ministries, Pennsylvania/South Jersey